My husband splurged and purchased a new type of welder today. We have the money. He works very hard for it. Yet he felt extremely guilty for making such a big purchase. Like the majority of couples, our biggest fights are over finances. Even more so now that I’m the one working a part-time job with a six figure student loan. Add to that he thinks money is THE most important thing (this is actually what we tend to fight about).
So today when he was upset about his purchase, I made it very clear that YES we have debt, YES we could have used that money to pay off some bills, YES we’re saving for our honeymoon (this summer!), and YES he won’t even use it that often. However, he deserves it. I want him to be happy now. I want us to be able to enjoy life now. I want to work towards financial stability (and then jump into the stress of starting a family). I want to spend some of my extra money on yoga classes and getting my hair done. I want him to treat himself to new toys and clothes. I do NOT want to wake up when I’m 50 and wonder what happened to my twenties (which are quickly closing and passing without enough notice).
I already honor myself by writing in my happiness journal each night, but how do I get my husband to do this? Starting tomorrow morning (before he goes to sleep for the day), I’m going to ask him to tell me one thing that made him happy that day. Maybe I’ll even pick up a journal and fill it out for him so that when he has a bad day I can hand it to him to see how great his life is.*
What made you happy today?
*This idea came to me while writing this post and now I’m EXTREMELY excited about it. I’m really loving how blogging is allowing me to explore my life 
**Also I think this is the layout/color scheme I’m sticking with for now. Is everything easy to find/read? Do you like it?
Namaste
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I love love the blog layout, and header:-) My hubby and I feel the same way, if we want something, we get it. We only live once, let’s enjoy every moment:-)
Hugs,
Terra
Thanks! I'm really happy to get good feedback on it because I don't think I have the patience to mess with it anymore
I think as long as you're not going to the extreme, you need to live this way! We have a savings. We're paying down our debt. But we're not depriving ourselves for someone unknown future
Yesterday I was happy because I got a lot of things accomplished that I've been putting off in favor of my thesis.
Today I am happy because it is Friday, and I get to read a book. Yes, the second Night Huntress World book. Have you started it yet, or am I going to beat you to it?
PS. The new layout and color scheme look great.
Thanks! FYI if you use DreamHost you can host more than one blog on the same account. They just share disk space and bandwidth (which were unlimited on mine). I'm glad you like the layout/color. I cannot mess with it anymore without my head exploding.
YAY!!! for finishing your thesis! And congrats on getting caught up on other stuff too. No, I have not ready either of the NH World books… I'd throw something at you if you were closer…
I'm tempted to leave my book blog at wordpress.com just so that I don't get so caught up in trying to post that it eventually loses its fun.
Hey, you're welcome to throw books at me any time. Just so long as I can read them before throwing back.
Hahahaha I actually have some books I might have to throw your way
And yeah I see what you mean. I wouldn't have hosted this blog if I didn't already have the account. I don't want it to feel like a job.
writing makes me happy. i'm glad it's working its magic for you, as well.
xo.
Charles is the same, it does better if it's for me but he had the hardest time spending money on himself.
We try to find a balance between the future and now which some times goes better then others lol.
It's harder for men, I think, to get on the whole "gratitude" train because they think it makes them less manly or something…but a happy guy is an attractive guy – at least to me!
I think you are right. All the more reason for me to encourage it