My husband splurged and purchased a new type of welder today. We have the money. He works very hard for it. Yet he felt extremely guilty for making such a big purchase. Like the majority of couples, our biggest fights are over finances. Even more so now that I’m the one working a part-time job with a six figure student loan. Add to that he thinks money is THE most important thing (this is actually what we tend to fight about).
So today when he was upset about his purchase, I made it very clear that YES we have debt, YES we could have used that money to pay off some bills, YES we’re saving for our honeymoon (this summer!), and YES he won’t even use it that often. However, he deserves it. I want him to be happy now. I want us to be able to enjoy life now. I want to work towards financial stability (and then jump into the stress of starting a family). I want to spend some of my extra money on yoga classes and getting my hair done. I want him to treat himself to new toys and clothes. I do NOT want to wake up when I’m 50 and wonder what happened to my twenties (which are quickly closing and passing without enough notice).
I already honor myself by writing in my happiness journal each night, but how do I get my husband to do this? Starting tomorrow morning (before he goes to sleep for the day), I’m going to ask him to tell me one thing that made him happy that day. Maybe I’ll even pick up a journal and fill it out for him so that when he has a bad day I can hand it to him to see how great his life is.*
What made you happy today?
*This idea came to me while writing this post and now I’m EXTREMELY excited about it. I’m really loving how blogging is allowing me to explore my life
**Also I think this is the layout/color scheme I’m sticking with for now. Is everything easy to find/read? Do you like it?
I've created Imagine Balance to help document my journey to a more balanced life.
In yoga, balance is much more a state of mind rather than a physical ability. I want to imagine balance so that I can achieve it.