I had a ton of compliments on this outfit yesterday. Cute tights. Cute shirt. And a skirt that hits my waist in the perfect spot. So why did I feel uncomfortable with people telling me I looked cute?! I’m not sure that I would have noticed it if @CurvyYoga hadn’t tweeted about this amazing post on “Learning How to Take a Compliment” by @ChallyWrites.
How terrible is that we’re taught to decline compliments on how we look? How am I supposed to learn to love my body if I’m not allowed to believe or acknowledge praise from others?!
I’m constantly saying things like “oh the dress just hits my waist in a good spot, I’m not really that small” or “meh I got it on sale” or “I’m just having a good hair day. It doesn’t normally look like this.”. I think it makes me look arrogant if I say “Thanks! I feel really pretty today.”. Am I not supposed to tell people when I think I look good?
I’m making a vow to myself. From now on I’m going to say “Thank you!”. No excuses. No downplaying myself. No need to give a compliment right back to balance things out.
Just say “Thanks!”.
Namaste
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You look cute!
Thanks
I have a difficult time saying thanks too. I'm a fan of genuine compliments but too many makes me feel a little uncomfortable. Even with family it can be tough to have all eyes on you! I do love the outfit!
Thanks!
My family can be very passive aggressive. Saying things like "I really love that outfit, but you look too skinny.". Makes me wonder if that's part of why I have such an issue with this stuff :/
So true. I've worked a lot on being able to receive compliments. It feels so good to recognize when you're rocking in something and to give praise to others as well.
Even when I was writing this, I wasn't looking at it from the other side. I also love giving compliments and it can be annoying when you say someone looks good and they blow you off instead of kindly accepting.
i do this, too. and "thank you" IS the right answer. thanks for the reminder!
I don't know why it is so hard! I need to tattoo "thanks" on my wrist or something
I swear I commented on this post before… I said that I told a random woman i loved her dress… that it was "cute" b/c it was but now I'm wondering if she was thinking that was too trite. Hmm.. I love getting compliments but like you have a hard time accepting them. Part of the work I'm doing it to take them in with as much joy as they were giving out. good to know I'm not alone here!
You did
I just forgot that I need to moderate them if even someone has left a message before (although I could swear I had it set up otherwise).
I actually have an easier time accepting compliments from strangers. I feel like they must really mean it in order to say something to someone they don't know